Hugs Can Send Your Child a Message

Parenting is a really hard thing. Apart from the pressure and the responsibility that it puts on you, you need to make sure that you do your best to instill positive virtues and good behavior in your children. You need to become a good role model while you provide for all their needs. It might sound like a handful, but there is also a lot of fun along the way. Parenting is a learning process for both the parent and the child. I read a powerful story from The Better Mom titled If I Could Share a Parenting Secret. It talks about how they learned a good parenting approach from their son.

According to the blog, the surprising parenting secret that their son taught them is how valuable a hug can be! Hugs can send your child a message. In the post they talk about the different message it can send when you hug your child.

“A hug says so much to your child.

It says, I like being with you

and I like you just the way you are.

It says, I’m here for you

and I’ll always be there for you.

It says, I love you

and I know you love me too.”

The hug heals and encourages. It is actually recommended to hug your loved one at least once a day. Personally I recommend extra hugs, but that’s up to your discretion.

A Prayer For Humility: Give Praise to the Lord

Pride is sin that we all are guilty of. What beats pride is humility. At times we are faced with a lot of circumstances in life that tempt us to be overly proud. The Bible tells us that pride is sinful and it corrupts our spirit. We must remember that all things come from our creator and everything that we have is because of God. In everything that we do we should remember to give praise to God. Letting pride get in the way of praising God is common though, and we will all struggle with it from time to time.

Often, I forgot that my achievements are not my own. I forgot that without God, nothing would have become of me. I came across a great post entitled: “Litany of Humility: A Prayer For A Beloved Sinner“. The prayer keeps me in touch with myself and taught me to remember that humility beats pride. I thought that others should read this prayer for humility as well because it helped me very much.

Let Us Not Be Divided

The blog post One in Christ featured on Roses Near Running Waters, gave new insight today. Well, perhaps not that new but an age long plea. The blog post shared a wonderful verse:

“There is no longer Jew or Greek, there is no longer slave or free, there is no longer male and female; for all of you are one in Christ Jesus. (Galatians 3:28)”

God has called all of his believers to be united in the name of Jesus. Let us not be divided! No matter what the religion and the differences in beliefs and traditions, all Christians believe in one true God and the God of salvation. God calls for unity of those who believe in him, and I am hoping that people will listen and understand that it is now more than ever that we need to be united in the name of Christ. I believe that what keeps us all divided is pride, we need to recognize this and set it aside. This should be so, so that we Christians, the warriors of Christ might begin our true purpose as servants and disciples of the Lord. The faith is waning and more people are tearing themselves away from our faith while we stand and watch doing nothing.

May God give us the strength to recognize our weakness, accept it, and correct it for the glory of God. Let us not be divided, we are so much stronger together.

Preparing Children for School: Tips That Can Help

Many parents have great anxiety over preparing children school. It is important that you equip your child with the right preparation before sending them off. Proper preparation will give your child a heads-up and even a head start for the activities that he is expected to do at school. Preparing your child will:

  1. Reduce the level of anxiety
  2. Introduce your child to the kind of school activities that he is expected to do daily
  3. Let your child learn ahead thus making it easier for him to adjust to school activities
  4. Help him or her enjoy school

These are just some of the pros that preparing your child for school will do. A thorough list of how to prepare your child for school can be found in the post 20 Things You Gotta Do Before Your Kid Starts Kindergarten. Preparing your child for school also means getting him ready for the hours. So tuck him to bed early and prepare yourself for an early start in the morning. And yes, dreading the loss of summer starts here.

A Beautiful Psalm: My Thoughts on Psalm 121:1-2

I read an inspiring verse at Writing Sisters titled Draw Near to God:

“Day Three: Taking time for the journey

I lift up my eyes to the hills –

where does my help come from?

My help comes from the Lord,

the Maker of heaven and earth.

Psalm 121: 1-2″

Upon reading this beautiful psalm, I had a personal moment of realization. I just thought that through all my troubles, when no one was there to rescue me or to lift me up from a difficult situation, God has always there to come to my rescue. He never fails-Never! I sometimes feel like whenever I call for help, help will always come, with no delays and in perfect timing. God’s timing is always perfect.

God made the world wonderful and he created many wonderful things within it. His providence is not only on our basic need but also provides for rescue in our day to day endeavors. Our God is a God of love and is a God of generosity. The beautiful psalm reminded me of this today.

Pope Francis Calls for Social Justice

The leader of the Catholic Church has received some criticism because of his thoughts on humility, freedom, and responsibility. I am a personal admirer of the Pope Francis, and Pope Francis calls for social justice. More specifically I am referring to his views on helping the poor. I feel that he represents the image of Jesus quite well because he is humble, wise, and he keeps a poor spirit. So why is he now being scrutinized? Mostly because he has shown love for the poor, he dedicates himself to the poor. Often are his speeches and prayers directed to the poor. People have asked, what about the rich? Personally, I think that this is a call for contemplation for those who have much to give, not a condemnation of them. As a recent article states:

“We must not equate every call for social justice to communism. Justice is most possible amid a culture of freedom, but freedom also requires responsibility to one another.”

You can read more from this thorough blog post titled Really, is Pope Francis…a communist? In defense of one of my favorite people in the whole world, I do believe that freedom requires responsibility and we must learn to face this fact. This means caring for our fellow human beings, especially those who are struggling.

Keeping an Eye on Internet Use

You can find almost anything on the internet these days. You can shop online, work online, make reservations online. It’s actually a good thing that we can’t eat using the internet just yet. All kidding aside, my point is that the internet is useful in a lot of ways, but along with the usefulness comes an equal disadvantage. Children can be exposed to multitudes of things that can corrupt their young minds. Without properly monitoring your children’s activity over the internet, you might be shocked to find that the child that you are trying to protect and nurture is being corrupted by the evils of the world. This is done inside your own home! Just as you do not tolerate an actual person filling your children’s mind with evil notions, we should also not tolerate our computers and the internet hurting them in the same way. Keeping an eye on internet use is a very important aspect of parenting today.

How do you protect your child? There are 10 online safety tips suggested in a post called Internet Safety: A Warning to Parents & 10 Helpful Tips.

Here are some suggestions to ensure your child’s safe online browsing:

1. Keep the computer in a public area

2. Limit time online

3. Have a buddy system

4. Know what they are doing online

5. Know passwords and check accounts

Keeping an eye on internet use is a critical activity for all parents. Don’t neglect its importance!

 

Parenting Gets Me Worried Sometimes

Parenting gets me worried sometimes, and I know I’m not alone with that feeling. Parents keep track of anything and everything when it comes to their children. We always want to make sure that their physical and mental development are right on track, that they eat the right kind or food, and that they grow to be exactly how the book tells us they should. Often, we focus too much on what the book tells us. We pay less attention to reality. Books are ideal but like I always say, development and learning is not a one-size-fits-all kind of thing. We tend to worry whenever our child’s developmental milestone is not “on the date” and “by the minute” perfect.

With all these things worrying me, a blog post from Life Blessons titled The Promised Land of Parenting encourages parents to just relax, keep your cool, and focus on what matters most. What matters most do you say? Teaching your child to grow up and lead a happy lifestyle. Parenting gets me worried sometimes, and it was nice to read this post and remember it’s all going to be okay.

Martyrdom Through the Ages: From Ancient Japan to Today

We are all lucky because we do not have to go through the same form of persecution that some Japanese Christians had to endure long ago. Back in ancient Japan, Christian believers were tortured and killed just because of their faith in God. It surprised me to read about martyrdom through the ages because it has been so vicious and cruel. When St. Francis Xavier went to Japan, he planted the seed of Christianity well into the minds and hearts of Japanese people. So well in fact, that it grew to great numbers. The believers increased to two hundred thousand strong and that alarmed the authorities. Deviating from the religion that they were used to, these numbers were seen as a threat. Many were punished and tortured to death.

Today we are faced with a different kinds of torture. The media, the people, and the ways of the community are constantly enticing us to deviate from the teachings of Christianity. We may not be physically tortured but we are constantly tried. We do not need to run away from soldiers, but we need to keep away from the things that break our souls and weaken our faith. Read more from an inspiring blog post featured on Crisis Magazine called Lessons Drawn From The Japanese Martyrs. Of course, martyrdom has existed since even earlier than ancient Japan. However, my main point was to show that martyrdom has existed for a long time, and despite its changing form it will exist forever.

What to Do When a Child Swears

Parents and children sometimes argue about things. Okay, parents and children kind of argue about a lot of things. That’s the nature of the relationship, sometimes you disagree and sometimes you agree. You’ll always love each other though. A lot of parents want to know what to do when a child swears or uses a bad word.  Do you question where did I go wrong or think have I been a bad parent?

Not so fast! The truth is there are a lot of factors that contribute to how your child grows to become an adult in this world. Friends, the media, magazines, video games, sports, coaches, and many other things all affect how your child grows and learns. Having limits on what type of language you allow in your house is a smart move though. Just because your child swears doesn’t mean you have failed as parent. Stay consistent with your rules and stick with it.

For more ideas about what to do when a child swears check out an interesting post I read at Parenting Problem: How to Handle a Child’s Hateful and Disrespectful Speech. Some of the author’s main points included:

  • Build a foundation
  • Maintain consistency
  • Give it time
  • Use clarity
  • Stay calm

These are all techniques that can help you discipline to your child for their poor choice of language. The bottom line is you should build a firm foundation and be consistent.