Unable To Breastfeed? Shake Away Your Frustration

Breastfeeding is considered to be one heroic act of mothers. More so, if you can continue breastfeeding your child until 2 years old. For many moms, this is an easily achievable feat but for others it can be heartbreaking. One mom shares her frustrations about not being able to breastfeed and the guilt that she has to go through at A Woman With Opinions.

Many moms plan to give the best for their children and that includes breastfeeding. Breastfeeding has all the necessary nutrients that every newborn needs. But what happens if breastfeeding for you and your baby really does not work out. Some are filled with grief that after planning on breastfeeding, they end up using bottles. Now is the time to ease your worry. What works with another person may not work for you and your baby and this fact just needs to be accepted. What you can do? Find another alternative and move on. There are a couple of choices that you might want to try. There are surrogate breastfeeding volunteers who are ever willing to share their milk with your young or you can choose formula milk and bottle feed your baby.

If you tried but nothing worked then go easy on yourself and plan on what will work best for you and your baby.

How To Help Your Child Lessen Life’s Anxiety

Growing up, I had fears of my own. First, I feared the crowd then feared of boys and relationships. So how do these fears happen? Some of the fears that we have as adults began to develop when we were children. We carried these fears as we grew older and have failed to address them thus they haunt us until now. So, how do we prevent things like this from happening to our kids? A blog entitled Parenting the Fearful Child gives advice on how parents could help handle fears in their children.

Quoted from the blog post:

“The Theology of the Body tells us that we are created for communion and connection – with God and with one another – but fearfulness and anxiety can actually prevent our children from having the peace of mind required for receptiveness to others. “

For children to become the best that they could be and avoid issues with fear and anxiety in the future, there are parenting styles that can help. It is also important to recognize the fear and know where it is coming from. All parenting styles should always have communication. An open line of communication between parents and children is important.

What It Means To Tell Your Child The Truth

A post from Pint-sized Treasures got me thinking. The blog post talks about honesty and how far does honesty go especially when concerning your child. As a parent it is your responsibility to hone your child’s skills as well as correct negative traits and values. One of the things that a lot of children normally gets away is are little lies. Most parents would not mind their children lying as long as they are not harmful or just little white lies. But lying can become habitual. If you let your child get away with those little white lies, is there a tendency for your child to become a chronic liar when they become an adult?

Adults and parents too are not exempted from this crime, often, we lie about little things to our children. As quoted from the blog post:

“You better be good or I am going to call 1-800-North Pole and tell Santa you need to be put on the bad list!
Take the medicine, it tastes like candy!
The shot won’t hurt sweetie, just close your eyes and hold my hand.
Tell Uncle Ben I’m not here. I don’t feel like talking.
If you cross your eyes, they will get stuck.
If you don’t come here now, i will leave you by yourself.
Babies come from large birds that fly around and drop them down to their special homes.”

Personally, I am guilty of these white lies. But I do not want to take away the magic that made my own childhood more fun. Now I am torn in between. To tell the truth and take away the fun or to lie a little and risk my child distrusting me or worse, that my child imitate my little white lies int he future.

The Truth About Parenting

The news of being pregnant is probably one of the most blissful moment that every expectant mother would have. Add up the good “build-up” from many other parenting blogs and pregnancy sites and you envision a perfect pregnancy and a happily ever after parenthood. But after you read out all those blissful blog post and you go back to real life, you begin to question. Where are those promising, fun, and happy moments that you have read?

Being a parent is great, no doubt, but parenting is not all candies and roses. A quote from Scary Mommy explained a better realization of real life parenting:

“Through the years, I have learned (and am learning) several hard truths, each one stripping away the expectations and leaving in their place authenticity and courage, vulnerability and resilience. Each hard truth has been a nugget of insight into my family, my spirit, and humanity as a whole. Each one has taken me a step closer to the parent – and person – that I am called to be.”

Parenting may not be perfect. It requires a lot of adjustment, tons of letting go as well as heaps of realizations. But at the end of the day, you begin to see what matters most in life-your children.

Traditional School or Home School?

If you as parents were given a choice with how you would have learned, will you opt for home school or traditional school? Why Home- School? Reasons Why Parents Educate Out of School says: “School is fine when it’s working. Not so great when it isn’t.” It turns out that not all children are comfortable with learning from an institution. According to the blog, there are a few factors that parents and their children choose home schooling. Such factors are:

  • Unhappiness
  • Health
  • Bullying
  • Poor Achievement
  • Poor Relationships

Home Schooling is more individualized and structured according to the ability of your child to learn. Traditional school on the other hand is standardized, although teaching staffs are trying their best to teach and accommodate the concerns of every student, there are those that are left out. While home schooling is best for parents who stays at home with their kids, traditional school is much convenient for working parents. In the end, parents should consider what will work best for their children. The good thing is that there are two options that you can choose from if one does not work out.

The Loaves and Fishes: The Message

In this weekend’s Gospel, we heard how Jesus fed thousands with just five loaves and two fish. The apostles approached Jesus, saying “five loaves and two fishes are all we have here. Dismiss the crowds, so they can buy food for themselves.”

This is where most folks miss the point of the story.

The Apostles tried to get out of having to feed the large crowd. But Jesus told them, “There is no need for them to go away; give them some food yourselves.”

Now, how were the Apostles going to do that?

How many times have we found ourselves saying “Oh, I am too tired” or “I am too old to make a difference” or “I already have enough on my plate.”

God will give us whatever we need. When we need it. Jesus wants you to be another Apostle. You are not too old, too busy or unprepared. Just do it.

The Beautiful Life of Mary: Our Blessed Mother

The 8th of September was the celebrated birthday of the Blessed Mother. I took the opportunity on that day to reflect on the beautiful life of Mary. However, according to The Virgin Mary’s Birthday

“When was the Mother of God born? We can’t know for certain, of course, but for almost 15 centuries now, the Nativity of the Blessed Virgin Mary has been celebrated on September 8.”

The birth of the Blessed Virgin was planned and directed by the Almighty Creator. From the very start, her life was destined for both greatness and suffering. She knew that when she said ‘yes’ to the command of God, she also said yes to knowing that her son would face many trials, and that he would also sacrifice his life to wash away the sins of the world. Mother Mary is woman of contemplation and woman of prayer. Jesus loves his mother so much that he performed a miracle at the wedding in Cana even though it was not yet time for him to make his miracle. If Jesus loves his mother, how can we resist not loving her?

May you continue to guide us and protect us our Blessed Mother, especially in these trying times.

Facing Parenting Struggles With Optimism

I read an article titled “Life is Fluid” from Parenting Philosophy today. The article was full of beautiful insights that every struggling mother can probably relate to. While I enjoyed reading every bit of the post, I was especially moved by the author’s closing words. The point was that facing parenting struggles with optimism is something parents need to do. Let me share the beautiful words with you:

I see the path of my parenting journey has not always been right, or straight forward. It is littered with mistakes but covered with love and effort.  With my new glasses I see the complexity and simplicity of grace, of mercy and peace. Instead of looking at my children and thinking this is the right way I feel there are some ways, let’s see what works. Time changes perspective, priorities and I see the brilliance of colours, of options, chances and changes instead of black and white. The young mom who struggles to keep her cool with her toddlers in tow meets my eyes in a line somewhere I want to reach out my hand and touch her gently on the arm and tell her I can see her effort, she is doing a good job and everything is going to be okay.

I hope these words give you as much lesson and inspiration as it did to me. Facing parenting struggles with optimism may not always be easy, but keep an open mind. You will see that the positivity will bring good changes to your life.

Asking God for a Sign

Have you ever been in a situation that prompted you to ask God for a sign? An article I read this morning titled, “When Dreams Come True” inspired me to put together a little post about asking God for a sign.

I know a few people who do not believe that it is right or appropriate to ask God for signs. I am a firm believer that God is more than willing to help me make decisions in my life. Another thing is, the Bible encourages us to ask for signs. One example would be the verse from Isaiah 7:11 “Ask the LORD your God for a sign, whether in the deepest depths or in the highest heights.”

I sincerely believe that the Lord wants to get involved with every little detail of our lives. So we should not hesitate in asking for His help at any time for anything. As opposed to what others are saying, I believe that asking God for signs is not seeking for proof of his existence or capacity; instead, it is simply asking for God’s love and reassurance. Asking God for a sign shouldn’t be frowned upon.

How about you? Do you ask God for signs?

Skipping Cleaning and Chores to Play with Your Kids

I read this post earlier today: “So…A Clean House,” and it inspired me to put together this entry.

I believe that most mothers struggle with the guilt of having a messy home. We feel guilty because we are not able to provide our family with the clutter free and sparkling environment that they deserve. I was tortured with this feeling of guilt for quite some time, especially because as a young adult I lived with quite a strict set of codes for domestic harmony. It was only when I had my first child that I was no longer able to keep my environment as clean and organized as I want it to be–and that was really frustrating. Thankfully, my husband helped me take a fresh perspective on things and let go of my guilt and feelings of frustration. We’ve realized that skipping cleaning and chores to play with your kids might be just as important as doing the chores themselves.

Yes, it is important to straighten the sofa, vacuum the floor, dust the furniture, scrub the bathroom floor, etc. However, skipping cleaning and chores to play with your kids once in a while isn’t going to throw your life into shambles.

I hope my children look back on today
And see a mother who had time to play.
There will be years for cleaning and cooking..
For children grow up while we’re not looking.