Comparing Your Family to Others: Something You Should Never Do

“Instead of comparing our lot with that of those who are more fortunate than we are, we should compare it with the lot of the great majority of our fellow men. It then appears that we are among the privileged”. This quote from Helen Keller is a beautiful thought to consider. Why must people constantly compare themselves to others who they deem have it “better than them”? Parents are often amongst the people that do this the most. They look at the family down the street and wonder why their own kids can’t behave as well as their children do? The main issue with this is that all families have their own internal problems, and whether or not that family is openly revealing that is irrelevant. Parenting is not something that you should be comparative about because no two children are exactly the same. Even children in the same family can be very different individuals.

A recent post on Empowering Parents titled, “The Myth of the ‘Lucky’ Parent: Do You Compare Your Family to Others?” echoes this sentiment. The article talks about parenting and how often parents will be quick to judge other families and compare their own to them. This is truly an unrealistic action to perform that will not bring you happiness.

Do have a problem with comparing your family with others? How does it make you feel?

Comments

  1. I am definitely guilty of doing this from time to time, it’s a habit I need to stop.

  2. This is really a terrific post and I think we can all find ourselves — from time to time — in a similar position. True… that no two children are the same, but also no set of parents (or parent) are the same, or in the same situation.