Guide Your Child, Don’t Control

I read a question this morning that made me do some thinking, and I want to share it with you so you could do some thinking too. The question is a title of a blog post and it read: “When Does Parenting Cross the Line From Encouraging to Controlling?

I believe that it is innate for every parent to want their children to achieve something. While our intentions are good, we often end up making our children do something that they really do not want to do. Having our children follow suit to our whims can be satisfying, but this does not have the same effect to our kids. Studies show that kids who feel they have no autonomy are also more likely to be depressed and anxious. It is my belief that you should guide your child, don’t control your child.

We may have more knowledge that our kids, but this does not mean that we need to make all the decisions for them. Our kids are better off if we do not coerce them to do as we please. Our kids need someone to guide to help them make positive life choices, not someone who will control them. So guide your child, don’t control.

Parents should spend time teaching our kids the right values in life and having faith in their capacity to make the right decisions.


  1. I agree and love the last line. I want to trust my kids to make fine choices and trust they’ll learn from those that aren’t ideal choices. And … it’s hard as hell to let go!! Thanks so much for linking to my post!