Consistency is one of the most important principles of parenting. It is through consistency that children are able to understand what is expected of them. For instance, by setting consistent rules with predictable consequences, children remember what it is that they are supposed to do and what would happen if they misbehave. Aside from setting firm rules, another aspect of consistency that we need to give importance to is saying what we mean.
In my opinion this is a very valuable parenting tip. A lot of parents make the very common mistake of saying something to their kids and not following through. For instance this scenario, a child asks for a cookie before dinner time and you tell him, “No, you can’t have a cookie now, we’ll be having dinner in 15 minutes.” But after some whining and crying, you end up telling him, “Okay, just one cookie”, or you tell your child to stop running around and misbehaving at a party or you’ll leave but you end staying anyway despite your child’s unchanged behavior.
This may seem petty at a glance, but not doing what we said we would do has very serious implications to our children. When we don’t follow through, we cause confusion in the mind of our children. This very confusion will lead them to push their limits. Furthermore, our lack of resolve can cause our children to lose respect in our decisions.
See the wonderful benefits of the parenting tip to say what you mean and mean what you say through this awesome blog post: “Always Mean What You Say: The HOW of Parenting With Authority.”