Parents have to formulate some sort of expectations when they are raising a child. The must grow as parents, as their child becomes older. What they thought were realistic expectations a year ago might have drastically changed today. It is critical to know your child and understand them as a person. This will help you to have a more balanced relationship with them. In my opinion, the worst thing a parent can do is to apply all the same expectations and rules to all of their children.
I read a post titled, “The Parenting Chronicles: The House Rules”, and it talks about adjusting your rules for each child. While some would argue being consistent with all of your children is fair, the author of this post tends to disagree. I completely see where the author Brenda is coming from with her thoughts. I suggest you check them out.