It is painful for parents to see our child suffer. Reading this post, “Parenting Teens: Consequences, Peer Pressure and Making A Way Out,” reminded me of how much I need to keep myself from giving in to the urge of helping my children with every difficult situation that they go through. Yes, it’s very tempting, to shelter my children from things that cause them pain and discomfort, but then I have to ask myself what this will this make of them? Will my constant helping prepare them well for adult life or am I actually staging a life of failure by constantly bailing them out?
We may have learned a lot of things through books and lessons, but there is no denying that experience is the best teacher. If I do not let my children sort out their own problems, they won’t have any experience to learn from. Sure, it would be hard to see our child struggle, but we just have to remember that when a child is feeling upset, frustrated, angry, or sad they’re in a position to develop some important coping skills.
If we want our children to be confident adults who can think for themselves and navigate through difficult situations on their own, we must empower and encourage them to face problems and develop their own solutions.