Parenting and The Need For Consistency

Consistency is one of the most important yet most difficult principles of parenting. Consistently conforming to a regular pattern of rules and routines is not as easy as it sounds. Parents are humans, and we have this strong inclination to get off track–especially when we are exhausted. Engaging in a battle with our kids over TV time, dinner etiquette, gadget use, etc. is really the last thing we would want to do when we get home after a long day’s work.

However, as difficult as it is, there is a great need for us to always make sure that rules and expectations are the same from one time to another. When we give our children leeway when it comes to keeping routines and following rules, the more likely it is for them to test us, test the boundaries, and push the limits. We need to be hold our ground all the time or our children may be confused which actions are appropriate or which behaviors are acceptable and which aren’t.

So whenever you think leniency or giving in is the easiest way out of a battle with your child, think again. It may be what’s most convenient option for you at the moment, but these little acts of inconsistency will create devastating consequences in the long run.

Here is another mother’s take on consistency that is worth reading: Consistency in Parenting.

Parenting as a Team: Teamwork and Consistency are Key

It is critical as a parent to remain firm in your beliefs. You and your spouse should get together when a new situation arises, and decide how you will handle it as a team. If you are both consistent with your parenting techniques then there will be fewer issues at home. A lot of problems arise when parents are not on the same page. If you both say the same thing then if will be easier for your child to accept and will create less issues. Parenting is not for weak individuals and to be successful you will both have to learn to deny your child what they want sometimes. This also ties into consistency and being a team. Make a combined decision and stick to it, that means both of you! If one of you becomes the soft parent who always gives in when your child starts crying or throws a tantrum, it can ruin the dynamic of your parenting team.

An article titled, “Parenting a United Approach” gave me the idea for this post. It talked about a lot of the concepts I did, and made me think about the teamwork dynamic that is desperately needed in a good parenting relationship.