When Your Child’s Favorite Parent Is Not You

I read a very interesting article this morning. The article titled, “The pain of not being your child’s favourite…” was written by a mommy who feels hurt that she is not her little boy’s favorite parent despite the fact that she, “feeds him, changes him, plays with him, mops up the spills, kisses the bumps and grazes, reads to him and cares for him when he’s ill.” When your child’s favorite parent is not you it can kind of hurt your feelings a bit.

Have you ever felt this way with your kids? Feeling like you are less favored by your child/children than your spouse? While I think as parents we try to joke around and take our secondary status lightly, there will always be times when it will get into us–as what the author of the above article says, especially during times when we feel overwhelmed, stressed, or tired.

So what do we do when your child’s favorite parent is not you? I would say, try not to take it personally and think that your child loves you less. As psychologist and author Dr. Ellen Weber Libby puts it, “Having a favorite parent is totally normal. All people have preferences for those with whom they have an unspoken ease or simpatico. That doesn’t mean that the child doesn’t love both parents equally… it means that a given parent meets a given child’s emotional needs in ways that are beyond words.”

How Do You Deal With Your Kids Public Meltdowns?

As parents we all experience them, so how do you deal with your kids public meltdowns? Temper tantrums and emotional outbursts are nothing new to parents. While we are normally capable of dealing with these sort of things at home, it’s an entirely different story when we are in public. It’s just not the same when people are looking at you, waiting for how you will respond. Ever so often, the pressure that comes from knowing that others are watching your every move gets the best of us.

As one momma blogger says, “Because let’s face it, when in public, our embarrassment and fears can easily override our thinking brain…We threaten, intimidate, punish or withdraw our love or attention to feel in control.” But do these actions help? Well, they may stop your child’s torrent of screeches and tears, however I highly doubt that they’ll have a positive long-term impact on your child.

It is rather sad that many of us get so caught up with the stares or glares of people we don’t really know that we forget the welfare of the kids we so love dearly. If you need some help on how to deal with a distraught child in public places, here’s a good read: “4 Tips for Handling Your Child’s Public Meltdowns.” How do you deal with your kids public meltdowns? I would like to know?

The Most Important Tip To Successfully Raise A Teenager

Being a parent is one of the happiest, most rewarding, and joyful experience in the world. For me the joy of having children can never be equaled by anything in the world. Along with all these positive emotions that parenthood can create is a great deal of responsibility, stress, headaches, and heartaches–especially during children’s teenage years.

My own parents and majority of my friends would really say that the job of being a parent is most difficult and challenging during children’s teen years. Adolescence ushers in a period of intense growth, not only physically but morally and intellectually. The desire for more and more independence often leads kids to try out different activities, looks, and identities–many of which are not appealing to parents.

Yes dealing with a teenager can evoke a lot of stress, anger, and even feelings of helplessness among parents. But should things really have to go out of control? Definitely not! There are a lot of ways to successfully raise your teen to become a morally upright and kind hearted person. And you know what the most important tip is? Never forget to make Jesus a part of your parenting endeavors.  No one is better able to guide you on how to deal and respond to your teenager.

Be inspired by this article on successfully correcting your teen’s behavior with Jesus’ help: Tuning into Your Teen When They Cross the Line.

Unexpected Lessons We Get From Our Children

All parents are well aware that we are our children’s teachers and role models. We try to inculcate in our children’s minds and hearts the right values, teach them how to discern right from wrong as well as in inspire them to live a life that is centered in Christ. In short we are responsible for the character formation of our kids, but is the lesson giving and lesson learning meant to only be a one-way street? Certainly not!

A post titled, My Kids Keep Teaching Me How to Pray made me see that parents too can learn valuable lessons from our children. We need to take the time to listen and be in the moment when we are actually with them. Of course, we should do our best in teaching our children the right things so that they will grow up to become happy, good-hearted, and faithful individuals. However, we must not allow ourselves to get so wrapped up in all of our parenting roles and responsibilities. Missing out on great opportunities to become better individuals through our children is something parents should try to avoid.

Are You Best Friends with Your Siblings?

In my opinion there is no stronger bond than that of siblings. Siblings grow up together and experience a lot of the same things. When siblings are close in age they can really be each other’s best friends. The bond that I have with my siblings is ridiculously strong, and while I have other friends none of them come close to being what my siblings are to me. As a parent I feel like most of us strive for our children to be best friends.

I found a site recently called The Better Mom and the author Tricia shares the same feeling that siblings should be best friends. Her post titled, “Raising Kids to Be Best Friends for Life” is really awesome. It talks about her family and their relationships with one another. They seem to have a great family dynamic and I respect that.

Tips to Help Your Family Pray Together in the New Year

Finding the time to pray with your family is not always easy. The bigger your family is the more you will have to try to make a convenient time for everybody to pray together. The idea of creating a time like this for prayer is similar to finding the time to have the whole family sit down for dinner the same time each night. If you can set a time and make a habit, it will become easier for your family to do this on a regular basis.

If you have struggled to find ways to pray as a family before, a post I read recently called, “25 Ways to Pray as a Family in the New Year” could help you a lot. The article offers a lot of useful tips to help your family come together for prayer time.

Have You Ever Been to a Dedication Mass?

Have you ever been to a Dedication Mass? If you haven’t then the article I just read about why attending a Dedication Mass should be on your bucket list is one that you should check out.

If you don’t know what a Dedication Mass is the post also goes into great detail about what went on at this particular Dedication Mass. A few of the author’s favorite moments included the deposition of the relics, the anointing of the altar and walls, the covering of the altar and the placement of the flowers. Dedication Masses are longer than the average Mass, but the author and her family found time to enjoy this special Mass. Learn all about their experience in the post!

Keeping Christ in Christmas: How You Can Help

I have posted a pretty good amount recently about keeping Christmas based on the birth of Jesus. Keeping the Christ in Christmas is an important thing to focus on obviously. I have had some conversations with my fellow blogger Janet, who writes the more parenting centered posts here. Her and I agree that when you have young children it is even harder to keep the focus of Christmas on Christ. This is because they probably go to school and have friends whose parents don’t keep that as the focus. The idea of Santa Claus and presents is much more enticing to a six year old than Jesus and the story of his birth. If you can get your children to focus on Jesus for even a little bit during the Advent and Christmas season, then you are doing a good job.

I read a story yesterday that I thought was really cool, and totally in line with the keeping Christ in Christmas line of thought. A mom bought a tree topper ornament that was Santa and turned it into Saint Nicholas instead. This decoration makeover was simple and easy, you should read about it! It was a thoughtful and really cool idea that I felt was worth sharing.

How to Get Your Baby to Sleep While Traveling for the Holidays

A big concern for many parents with a toddler or baby around this time of the year is keeping their sleep pattern regular throughout the holidays. Traveling or having family over for the holidays can definitely disrupt your babies sleep schedule. Whether they miss their afternoon nap or just can’t seem to fall asleep at night, it can make for some serious problems. Strive for normalcy, as that is what they are used to, but if all else fails just go with your instincts. If a typical nap time is missed, substitute a different one later.

A post titled, “Holidays, Travel, and Baby’s Sleep” had some great pointers for just this issue. The last thing anybody wants is to spend all night up with a baby, and then deal with a travel day the next day with a cranky baby. One of their best bits of advice was to bring a dark towel or sheet with you when you travel. Babies used light and dark cues often in their sleeping patterns, and turning an otherwise bright room dark with a sheet or towel could mean a successful nap.

Catholic Dads: How to Be a Positive Spiritual Role Model

I read a post on Catholic Mom recently that I found to be inspiring. It was by a Catholic Dad named Eric Neubauer, and the post was about “Catholic Dads and the Domestic Church”. The post was inspiring to me because Eric was calling dads everywhere to action. He wants them to be more involved with their children’s faith, mainly in the development of it.

There were some tips given in the article that I thought were good advice. Overall, attending Mass more regularly and participating actively when you do was the theme. Setting this example for your children makes you a positive spiritual role model, which is something many dads are not doing anymore. Also he suggested being more attentive at home, this means less time in front of screens and more time spent with your loved ones. I think we could all stand to take something away from Eric’s post, so check it out.