How Do You Measure the Success of a Parent

Every parent wants their child to be a great success. They want to be able to say that they raised a doctor, lawyer, engineer, or chemist and that makes sense. So much of today’s world is wrapped around what you do for a living. Many people would see it as a great parenting success if you end up having kids that turn out to be successful people at their jobs. Having said that, I tend to disagree with that being successful parenting. Surely you do not want to see your child become unemployed later in life, but I don’t think successful parenting depends solely on what your child ends up becoming. You have to look at the happiness factor, and if your child had a fun life growing up. There is a lot of value in one singular good memory from growing up, which is something that not everybody can say they have.

A post called “How to Measure the Success of a Parent”, caught my attention recently when it talked about this topic. Make sure that your child is having fun as they grow up. They might have more fond memories of you if you separate work and special time with them.

Teach Your Kids How to Do Easy Tasks to Help at Home

A parent has a ton of responsibilities. This isn’t something I thought you all needed to know. It’s basically a given, but it was the proper place to start this post. Parents have a lot to do in a day, and sometimes wish they had more help. As your children get older, it is definitely okay to delegate smaller tasks to them as you see appropriate. Take out the trash on Mondays, set the table for dinner, etc. you get the picture. Kids are capable of doing smaller things like this that can make your life a little bit easier. A word to the wise though, if you are going to have your kids do any king of task that could present even the slightest danger to them; make sure that you teach them how to do it.

The last tidbit of parenting information shared above comes from a story I read recently. The post was titled, “When the Kids Scream Fire”, and was about a dad who asked his kids to take a tray out of the oven for him while he was busy. Seems like a simple enough task for an older child to handle, but somehow an oven mitt caught on fire. These are things you have to watch out for as a parent. Make sure that you teach your children how to do easy tasks before asking them to act on their own. Just in case you were wondering, the father and all his children are safe from the story. I encourage you to check it out though, it is pretty interesting.

Imperfection is a Part of Life for Parents and Children

“Nobody’s perfect” is a phrase we have all heard before to try and get us to calm down. When we make mistakes it can be really frustrating, and it is easy to get down on yourself. Never forget that imperfection is part of the beauty of life. As parents we are going to make mistakes. As long as you accept your mistakes as a learning experience and move on everything will be okay. If you lose your cool and yell at your child; just make sure that you apologize to them for your actions. You should teach them as they grow that nobody is perfect, and that includes you. You will make mistakes as a parent, and they will also make mistakes as your child. It is all a part of the loving, family relationship that you will develop.

A post titled, “It’s a Good Thing You’re Not Perfect!” gave me the idea to share my thoughts on imperfection in parenting with you. The post talks about how it is a good thing that people are not perfect, and I agree wholeheartedly.

Is It Better to Be a Parent at an Older Age?

Parents are becoming older than they used to be. Studies are showing that the average age of parents has risen recently. There are clear positives and negatives to this trend that I want to get into. Having older parents can mean more experienced parents. Older people (typically) are more financially stable, more patient, and have likely thought the decision to have kids through for many years. They also have probably been living in one spot for an extended period of time. The negatives to older parents have been coming up in studies lately. There have been developmental disorders with children born to older mothers. Older parents also means an increased risk that they might die in their child’s early years.

Overall, I think that having older parents is better. They are more responsible and stable individuals. To read more about this discussion check out a story titled, “The Case Against Older Parenting”.

Do you think it is a good thing that the average age of parents has gotten older?

Parenting Tip: How to Get Your Kids Excited to Do Chores

Nobody likes to do chores. This is a given, and as parents we know how hard it is to convince a child they need to do chores. Thinking of a fun way to get your child excited to do daily tasks is a good idea. Some sort of rewards system could be a great idea. Nothing huge, maybe working out a system where if their chores are done for the day they can play a video game for a half hour or hour. Everybody likes having an incentive to do work.

I read an idea on Mocha Momma about motivating children to do chores, and I thought her idea was just fantastic! She makes little personalized to do clips at her house and hangs them in the kitchen. When a task is completed you move the clip from the “To-Do” side to the “Done” side. It makes doing a task a little more fun, and teaches accountability to your kids.

How do you get your children excited to do chores?

Being a Good Parent Sometimes Means Being the “Bad Guy”

Human beings are faced with decisions every day. What do I eat for breakfast, what should I wear to work, should I go to the gym today etc. So when a person becomes a parent and is in charge of making their own personal decisions every day, plus the decisions of their son or daughter; it can be tough. Parents are forced to make unpopular decisions for the good of their child, and it’s not always easy. Nobody likes to be the bad guy, but that role often goes hand in hand with being a good parent.

This post titled, “Two Parenting Dilemmas” is a perfect example of parents being forced to make difficult decisions. The parents in this post had to decide whether or not to pay $750 to send their son on a class trip. They were also faced with the decision of whether they should let their son get the new Call of Duty game. All of his friends have it and it was making things difficult at play dates. No parenting decision is an easy one, but I thought they handling both situations brilliantly.

How You Can Turn Your Kids into Bookworms

Every parent wants their child to be the kid who loves to read. However, I get the general feeling that a lot of parents that want this think that it is something a child is born with. A child isn’t born with a desire to read all the time, it is something that they grow interested in. How might a child grow interested in reading you ask? Well, typically parents who promote reading as a fun activity to their children tend to see results. If you plop your child down in front of the TV and let them watch it for hours on end, the chances they will turn it off in favor of a book are slim. If you actively read books to your children until they can learn to read on their own, you are setting them up for success. Take the initiative and make your child into a reader.

A post called, “Raising a Reader” featured on Monika’s World talked about this topic recently. The post lists ways that you can take an active approach to make reading a part of your family’s daily routine. It really isn’t that difficult to make these changes, and your child will reap the benefits of it.

Encourage Your Child to Be an Individual

I was recently reminded of how mean children can be by a post on Perspective Parenting. The post “Why are Kids So Mean at Times?” made me remember how important it is to prepare kids for the cruelty of others. The author of the post talked about watching a little girl on the playground exclude another child because she wasn’t wearing Sketchers. This astonished her and I have to say when I read it I too was shocked, but the more I thought into it, the more realistic it seemed.

The basic idea that I took away from reading this terrific post was that kids are mean to each other, kind of how adults are too. Preparing your child for situations like the one described in the post is key. You can do this by making your child feel comfortable with who they are. Let them express themselves how they want to, without a worry of being different or being ridiculed for being different (like not wearing Sketchers).

Pareting Doubts: A Natural Behavior for Parents

It is quite normal for parents to have doubts. All people have doubts, but parents tend to doubt whether or not they are raising their child properly. This is natural, and most of the time worrying is a good thing! If you are worried about your child and your abilities to raise them into a good person, then you are already a step ahead of some parents out there. The difference is that you care! Some parents do not care about their children, and the fact that you are worried at all is a good sign. Chances are you are doing a great job, so keep doing what you have been and make changes when they seem necessary. Use your own best judgement, that is really all anybody can ask of you as a parent.

I recently read a post by a concerned mother titled, “Parenting The Heavy Stuff” and the comment I left for its author inspired me to share this post about parenting doubts. The mother listed all the “heavy thoughts” she has about parenting and her son each day. I felt that my reassuring response (along with about 50 others!) was something she might enjoy seeing.

Hanging Out With a First Time Parent: What Not to Say

Being a first time parent is the hardest parenting gig out there. You have only vague ideas of what you are supposed to do, and mostly have to trust your instincts which can occasionally be wrong. Learning from mistakes is key, and a lot of patience is needed. You will probably also develop new, super-human sleep cycles that you never thought you were capable of before. All of these things are part of the job description so to speak.

I recently read about 10 things to avoid saying to a first time parent on Hellobee. I never realized before that saying some of things they mention on this list might come off as annoying or rude. An example would be saying, “I’m so tired”, because let’s face it you probably aren’t more tired than they are. It’s just little things like this that you don’t think about during every day conversation.

What was the last thing you wanted to hear as a first time parent?