Get to Know Yourself Better Through Motherhood

On Being A Mother (And The Secret Trait That I never Knew I Had),” inspired this post today. I’ve always believed that you get to know yourself better through motherhood. Today the honest words of fellow mommy blogger Meagan prompted me to think about the things that I discovered about myself through years of being a mother. Here are some of them:

1. The experience of childbirth made me realize that I am capable of enduring such indescribable levels of pain.

2. Being a mom unleashed my creativity and knack for innovation (something which I never had as a youngster).

3. Motherhood made me discover just how big a part of my life Jesus is.

4. Most importantly, the daily adventures of motherhood taught me that I am capable of loving unconditionally, and doing so much for someone else without expecting anything in return.

How did you get to know yourself better through motherhood? What kind of valuable realizations did you have? Please share them with us through the comments section.

What Kind of Mom Are You?

I came across this really honest blog post and thought it would be great to share it with you. The post is titled, “The Usual Suspects… of the Mums Forum.” In the post, the author talks about the different types and personalities of Moms that hang around parenting forums. She identified 6 different kinds of mothers:

  • Mom who doesn’t know how good she has it
  • Panicky Mom
  • Negligent Mom
  • By the Book Mom
  • Fake Bragger
  • Negative poster
  • The Seller

So what kind of mom are you? Can you fit yourself in one of those categories? I know I could. Well, there is no perfect mom. No matter how we try, no matter what we do, we will never be perfect moms. So don’t beat yourself up thinking that you are not doing everything right as a mother. What really matters is the fact that nobody can care for your kids the way you can, and no one can love them more than you can. While that may not be enough for you, believe me, to your kids, it is.

On Days When You Don’t Like Being A Mom

I read this post today of one mother’s struggle to put her kids first before herself, the post was titled: “Loving Our Kids When We Don’t Love Being a Mom.” The short article made me recall the fact that it isn’t always sunny and cheery in “mommyville.” So what’s a mom to do on days when you don’t like being a mom?

No matter how dedicated and passionate we are as mothers or how much we love our kids, there will be days when we won’t like being a mom. Days when we want to give ourselves a break from all the work that we have to do to care for the family–days when we want to be our former “childless” selves. And while that may sound selfish to some, I, in all honesty believe that this is a fact.

So what can we do for days when we don’t like being a mom? Well, I haven’t exactly have this figured out, but I believe that it would help if we acknowledge our limitations and reach out to others for help. Like for instance, if you feel like you really need a break, instead of just swallowing it all up, talk to your husband or other family members so they can help you get the “me-time” that you deserve. On days when you don’t like being a mom it might be best to step away for a few hours if it’s possible. If immediate relief isn’t an option than perhaps you can set up a personal day for the near future. This way you have a break to look forward to.

Furthermore, I think it might also help if we don’t wait until we’re maxed out before we take a break. I believe it’s best for us moms to have regular time-outs rather than wait for the blues to take over before actually finding time for ourselves. What do you think? Can you suggest other ways we can deal with days when we’re feeling a little less motherly?

Give Your Family a Gift By De-stressing

I got a very wonderful reminder today in a post titled, “De-stressing Mom is a Gift for the Whole Family.”

Motherhood is an exhausting 24/7 job. Not only does the job drain us physically but also emotionally and mentally. While mothers try their hardest to fulfill their responsibilities and hold everything together all the time, we all have a breaking point. Sadly, a lot of mothers are not able to acknowledge this–or maybe some mothers think that they do not have the luxury to acknowledge this very fact. I believe you should give your family a gift by de-stressing

To give ourselves a break is not a luxury–it is a necessity! No matter how much we want to go on and on with our daily routines and demands of motherhood, the truth is our mind and bodies can only take so much. For this very reason, we should make it a point to give ourselves the chance to relax. You see, the less stressed you are, the happier you will be. And this will have positive effects on your children and family life. Just think about it. De-stressing is not a gift you just give to yourself but to your entire family as well. So give your family a gift by de-stressing, you might just enjoy it too.

Motherhood is a Choice You Make Everyday

Motherhood is a choice you make everyday. I read a short but very wonderful poem about motherhood today from a post titled, “I Am Every Mother,” let me to share it with you. The poem said:

Motherhood is a choice you make everyday

To put someone else’s happiness and well-being ahead of your own

To teach the hard lessons

To do the right thing even when you’re not sure what the right thing is

And to forgive yourself over and over again

For doing everything wrong

-Dona Ball

This poem just says it all for me. Motherhood is a very complex thing, but motherhood is a choice you make everyday. It makes you feel sad, angry, stressed out, and exhausted. While also making you feel elated and fulfilled. Furthermore, it makes you want to strive for perfection but also makes you accept your flaws and everybody’s flaws at the same time. Isn’t it wonderful how motherhood transforms us? Well some mothers may be expressing their regrets about having children, but as for me, at this point in my life, I would say that motherhood is the best thing that ever happened to me. Do you feel the same?

What Does Mother’s Day Mean To You?

What does Mother’s Day mean to you? Mother’s Day has always been a special occasion for me. Even before I became a mother, I always thought of Mother’s Day as the one special day where I could make my wonderful Mom feel appreciated and love. After reading “On Mother’s Day,” I was made to realize how different Mother’s Day is to some mothers.

I was brought to the realization that not all mothers feel the same way that I do during Mother’s Day–that in fact, “Mother’s Day can rub so much salt in the wounds of so many women.”

Reading the post made me feel grateful and blessed to have healthy and happy children who have given me the precious gift of motherhood, and to have had the opportunity of growing up with a mom who gave me nothing but sweet and glowing memories of my childhood.

To all mothers out there, whatever Mother’s Day means to you, I hope it has given you the time to see just how great and special your role is in this world.

As my little tot’s card says, there is only one mother.

Only One Mother
Hundreds of stars in the pretty sky,
Hundreds of shells on the shore together,
Hundreds of birds that go singing by,
Hundreds of lambs in the sunny weather.
Hundreds of dewdrops to greet the dawn,
Hundreds of bees in the purple clover,
Hundreds of butterflies on the lawn,
But only one mother the world wide over.

So what does Mother’s Day mean to you? I’d love to know, so leave a comment!

How Has Motherhood Changed Your Life?

Do you ever look at your life now and see how much having children has changed it–changed you? How has motherhood changed your life? One mother’s blog entry titled, “Mellowing Out,” made me recall the changes that have happened in my life over the years because of my decision to become a mother. Some of the changes did not come easily. Honestly, I struggled letting go and accepting a lot of things-like the fact that I can no longer hang out with my friends as much as I want to, go on last minute dinner dates with my husband, sit by the porch with no distractions, go to Church without worrying of a crying baby and much more.

Despite all the things I had to give up and changes I had to go through and accept, I would say that all in all motherhood changed me for the better. It had helped me morph into a wiser, stronger, and happier person that I could have never become if I had remained childless.

How about you? How has motherhood changed your life?

Motherhood: Unexpected Things You Discover

This morning I found myself really amused while reading this post, “10 Things That Shocked Me About Motherhood.” The amusement was mainly because I could totally relate to what this mom had to say. Motherhood is a shocker, no doubt about that, and the shocking discoveries just never stop although the first month is the most eye-opening time.

I would say that the most shocking realization I have had with motherhood was how isolating and lonely it can be. Of course I was also shocked with the non-stop crying and the extent of sleep deprivation, but nothing can compare to how much the loneliness and the isolation caught me off guard. I felt so out of touch with the entire world. As much as I love my baby the isolation was overwhelming, to a point where I felt like I was suffocating. I was never prepared to feel such a heavy emotion during such a wonderful time. Good thing with prayers and the help of my husband, my mother and my friends, I was able to overcome that stage in my life.

How about you? What is your most shocking realization as a mother?