Parenting Tip: Be Loving in Your Disciplinary Actions

Disciplining our children is very important. Although all of us have our own approaches to discipline, we all are in agreement that it is something that our children need. While there is certainly no shortage of discipline advice out there, a lot of parents often forget about the basic premise of positive discipline– to discipline with love.

It is often difficult for parents to give our children the discipline they need and still make them feel that they are loved. It is clear to most parents that discipline is an act of curtailing wrong behavior; however, a lot of parents forget that the act of correcting a child must be done in a loving way. Most of the time, love is overcome by other emotions such as anger, annoyance, frustration or impatience.

Discipline should not be hurtful, embarrassing, and injurious to a child’s sense of worth. Instead, it should be enlightening,  educational, and refining.

This post, Loving Correction where a mother realizes the impact of love when combined with discipline, inspired me to write this entry today.

Parenting Tip: Adjust Your Parenting Approach For Each Child

Parents have to formulate some sort of expectations when they are raising a child. The must grow as parents, as their child becomes older. What they thought were realistic expectations a year ago might have drastically changed today. It is critical to know your child and understand them as a person. This will help you to have a more balanced relationship with them. In my opinion, the worst thing a parent can do is to apply all the same expectations and rules to all of their children.

I read a post titled, “The Parenting Chronicles: The House Rules”, and it talks about adjusting your rules for each child. While some would argue being consistent with all of your children is fair, the author of this post tends to disagree. I completely see where the author Brenda is coming from with her thoughts. I suggest you check them out.

Combatting Your Child’s “No Phase”: Use Reverse Psychology

Parenting a toddler can become a lot more difficult when they go through their “no phase”. It doesn’t matter what you are asking them to do, even if it is something fun they will refuse. I know it can become really frustrating to deal with this, especially you are going through it with your first child. A strategy that I have used is to offer up two different options for my kids. If you let them choose between two different choices it lets them feel like they are in control.

A recent post I read titled, “Toddler Parenting Strategies” featured another good option they have been using to combat the “no phase”. They have been using reverse psychology on their toddler, and while this won’t work forever; it seems like it’s working splendidly for now. Whenever their child refuses to eat their food, these parents simply say okay I am hungry so I will eat it. The simplicity of this is genius, and also quite funny I think. Just thought I’d share their tip and my own tip about getting past the “no phase”. Parenting is a constant work in progress and changing approaches is something that happens often. I hope these tips help you out, even if it’s only for a short time.

Parenting Tip: Preventing Bad Behavior Before it Happens

I think many parents would like to know how to prevent inappropriate behavior from occurring when it comes to their children. The problem is finding out how to do so. The answer might be different for every family, and within each family the answer might be different for each child. This is something that parents have to deal with on a case by case basis. No single answer will work across the board.

I read a post titled, “Better Than Spanking: Prevention and Consequences”, and I thought it had some good prevention ideas to consider. I figure that the more ideas for prevention you see as a parent, the better the odds of finding one that works for you is. Even if you are experiencing success with a method now, you might want to consider reading these tips in case something changes.

Parenting Tip: How to Deal with Troubled Teens

It can really be difficult to be on the same page as your teen. Teens and parents traditionally have issues getting along because teenagers are going through a lot of life changes. As adults we can all relate to the teenage struggle, but still may find difficulties staying involved and informed with teens.

Sometimes it is completely necessary to ask for help when you feel lost as a parent. There are many options available for parents who need help with their teens. I read a post recently about 6 First Steps for Parents of Troubled Teens. The post listed six different ways you can begin to face the problems that you and your teen are having getting along.

Parenting Tip: Keep Communicating with Your Child as They Grow

I recently read an article about the importance of being current. When I first read the article’s title, I wasn’t completely sure what it meant. The main idea dawned pretty quickly on me though and I found it to be a valuable bit of advice. The author talks about remaining current in the sense that between parents and children, there shouldn’t be things that go unsaid. This means forgiveness, sharing your beliefs, telling them your dreams, and listening when they do the same. These factors are all a part of “being current” as the post calls it.

As a parent, it is really important to work hard to keep a strong relationship with your kids. When they are younger it is typically easier, but as they grow older that could change. Just keep communicating with them and try to remain as involved as possible with their day to day life.

Parenting Tip: How to Avoid Punishment When Your Child Misbehaves

As a parent, there are times where you must discipline your children. Discipline doesn’t meant punishment though and I believe there is a distinct difference between the two. There are always alternatives to actual punishment, and many of them are easy to do. You just need to have the right mindset about it. I recently read a post titled, “4 Powerful and and Effective Alternatives to Punishment”, that I thought was really great. The author’s tips in this post are precisely what I am talking about when I say that punishment does not have to happen.

The article talks about four main points prevention, alternatives, examples, and self reflection. Preventing potentially disastrous situations at home and in your life in general can save you and your child a lot of stress. Planning ahead is really not hard to do, and this means something as simple as putting fragile items in your home out of reach. Offering alternatives and examples are sort of the same. It means not freaking out when your child is throwing a baseball in the house. Take the baseball, but don’t scold them for it. Then when you have taken the ball give them a softer one that won’t break things. You could take it a step further and give them an example of this by showing them how to play with the new ball in a safe way. Self reflection is pretty straight forward and as a parent is something that I think could benefit anybody.

Parenting Tip: How to Talk to Your Child About Tragedy

Sometimes parents are reminded that we can not always protect our children. The recent tragedy in Newtown is an example of that. It is the harsh reality of life that sometimes, we are helpless and cannot do anything for our kids. The violence is not going to stop unfortunately, and that means the worrying will never truly stop either for parents. Even when your kids have grown up and are living on their own, you will worry about their well being. You will worry for them and your grandchildren, it’s like a never-ending line of worry. One thing that is certain is that we have opportunities every single day to show people how much we care about them.

A post I read titled, “Sheltering, Protecting, and Talking with Our Children: Parenting for Sanity in a Seemingly Insane World”, summed up this mindset perfectly. The author offers advice on how you might deal with talking to your son or daughter about last week’s tragedy depending on what their age is. Coming up with the right thing to say to your child at a time like this might be difficult, so read this post and gather some ideas.

Teach Your Kids How to Do Easy Tasks to Help at Home

A parent has a ton of responsibilities. This isn’t something I thought you all needed to know. It’s basically a given, but it was the proper place to start this post. Parents have a lot to do in a day, and sometimes wish they had more help. As your children get older, it is definitely okay to delegate smaller tasks to them as you see appropriate. Take out the trash on Mondays, set the table for dinner, etc. you get the picture. Kids are capable of doing smaller things like this that can make your life a little bit easier. A word to the wise though, if you are going to have your kids do any king of task that could present even the slightest danger to them; make sure that you teach them how to do it.

The last tidbit of parenting information shared above comes from a story I read recently. The post was titled, “When the Kids Scream Fire”, and was about a dad who asked his kids to take a tray out of the oven for him while he was busy. Seems like a simple enough task for an older child to handle, but somehow an oven mitt caught on fire. These are things you have to watch out for as a parent. Make sure that you teach your children how to do easy tasks before asking them to act on their own. Just in case you were wondering, the father and all his children are safe from the story. I encourage you to check it out though, it is pretty interesting.

Don’t Over-Schedule Your Family This Holiday Season

The holidays are a really stressful time, especially when you factor young kids into the picture. You are probably expected to visit all sorts of family, or have them visit your house. The kids will likely get overly rambunctious out of the excitement of Christmas, and because of all the sugar they will consume through Christmas treats. Sounds like the makings for a parental meltdown at any moment. Don’t let holiday stress get the best of you though, stay cool my friend.

A post called, “8 Parenting Tips for Happier Holidays with Young Children” features some great advice. First off, having realistic expectations for your family is the right way to go. If you think the day is going to be perfect and your kids will behave like perfect little robots, you are doomed to be disappointed. Chances are something minor will go wrong and one of them might get upset. Be ready to deal with this and don’t get angry. If you lose your cool it will only negatively affect your children. My favorite bit of advice was to not over-schedule. You know what your family is capable of doing in one day, so know your limits.