Parenting Tip: How to Get Your Kids Excited to Do Chores

Nobody likes to do chores. This is a given, and as parents we know how hard it is to convince a child they need to do chores. Thinking of a fun way to get your child excited to do daily tasks is a good idea. Some sort of rewards system could be a great idea. Nothing huge, maybe working out a system where if their chores are done for the day they can play a video game for a half hour or hour. Everybody likes having an incentive to do work.

I read an idea on Mocha Momma about motivating children to do chores, and I thought her idea was just fantastic! She makes little personalized to do clips at her house and hangs them in the kitchen. When a task is completed you move the clip from the “To-Do” side to the “Done” side. It makes doing a task a little more fun, and teaches accountability to your kids.

How do you get your children excited to do chores?

Parenting Tip: Paying It Forward with Your Toddler

Doesn’t it seem like every time you want your toddler to be quiet, they think it’s the best time to start crying or otherwise needing attention? It’s Murphy’s Law and it’s part of being a parent, and also part of life. However I read a post today that I think could help a lot of parents. “A Little Special Time in the Morning” is a post I read on Super-Protective Factor. The author has a different outlook on how to get your baby to calm down when you need to do chores or other business.

If it seems as though your child wants attention the most when you don’t have time to give it to them, you might want to try this “Special Time” technique. If you have something to do later in your day, take ten minutes to sit with your child and follow them as they do whatever they are doing. Even if they don’t directly interact with you, they will note the presence and feel wanted. After about ten minutes try getting up to go do your chore or get some work done, and gauge their reaction. Chances are they will be more okay with the fact that you aren’t paying full attention to them now because you did just a few minutes earlier. It’s worth a shot!

Being a Good Parent Sometimes Means Being the “Bad Guy”

Human beings are faced with decisions every day. What do I eat for breakfast, what should I wear to work, should I go to the gym today etc. So when a person becomes a parent and is in charge of making their own personal decisions every day, plus the decisions of their son or daughter; it can be tough. Parents are forced to make unpopular decisions for the good of their child, and it’s not always easy. Nobody likes to be the bad guy, but that role often goes hand in hand with being a good parent.

This post titled, “Two Parenting Dilemmas” is a perfect example of parents being forced to make difficult decisions. The parents in this post had to decide whether or not to pay $750 to send their son on a class trip. They were also faced with the decision of whether they should let their son get the new Call of Duty game. All of his friends have it and it was making things difficult at play dates. No parenting decision is an easy one, but I thought they handling both situations brilliantly.

Encourage Your Child to Be an Individual

I was recently reminded of how mean children can be by a post on Perspective Parenting. The post “Why are Kids So Mean at Times?” made me remember how important it is to prepare kids for the cruelty of others. The author of the post talked about watching a little girl on the playground exclude another child because she wasn’t wearing Sketchers. This astonished her and I have to say when I read it I too was shocked, but the more I thought into it, the more realistic it seemed.

The basic idea that I took away from reading this terrific post was that kids are mean to each other, kind of how adults are too. Preparing your child for situations like the one described in the post is key. You can do this by making your child feel comfortable with who they are. Let them express themselves how they want to, without a worry of being different or being ridiculed for being different (like not wearing Sketchers).

Parenting is a Trial and Error Process (With Discretion of Course!)

Parenting is one of the most complex things many people will do during their life. You can successfully raise children in so many different ways, and what is success in parenting anyway? It all begins with the idea and plan you have for raising your child. Each child you have will need a separate plan, and things that you learn from raising one child may not apply to your next. It makes it sounds harsh but I believe that “trial and error” is really how parenting is done. The use of discretion in the “trial” part is of course crucial. You have to try different parenting approaches to see what will work for you though, and that is the truth.

A post on Dear Beautiful titled, “It’s Always Darkest Before Dawn” perfectly highlights this. A mother posted about how her newborn daughter had been crying a lot. She began to doubt her parenting abilities and wondered what she was doing wrong. However, trying out swaddling her daughter made a huge improvement. Her first child, her son, did not like swaddling, but her daughter is loving it. I thought this post was a perfect example of what I was talking about with “trial and error” as a parent.

Pareting Doubts: A Natural Behavior for Parents

It is quite normal for parents to have doubts. All people have doubts, but parents tend to doubt whether or not they are raising their child properly. This is natural, and most of the time worrying is a good thing! If you are worried about your child and your abilities to raise them into a good person, then you are already a step ahead of some parents out there. The difference is that you care! Some parents do not care about their children, and the fact that you are worried at all is a good sign. Chances are you are doing a great job, so keep doing what you have been and make changes when they seem necessary. Use your own best judgement, that is really all anybody can ask of you as a parent.

I recently read a post by a concerned mother titled, “Parenting The Heavy Stuff” and the comment I left for its author inspired me to share this post about parenting doubts. The mother listed all the “heavy thoughts” she has about parenting and her son each day. I felt that my reassuring response (along with about 50 others!) was something she might enjoy seeing.

Parenting as a Team: Teamwork and Consistency are Key

It is critical as a parent to remain firm in your beliefs. You and your spouse should get together when a new situation arises, and decide how you will handle it as a team. If you are both consistent with your parenting techniques then there will be fewer issues at home. A lot of problems arise when parents are not on the same page. If you both say the same thing then if will be easier for your child to accept and will create less issues. Parenting is not for weak individuals and to be successful you will both have to learn to deny your child what they want sometimes. This also ties into consistency and being a team. Make a combined decision and stick to it, that means both of you! If one of you becomes the soft parent who always gives in when your child starts crying or throws a tantrum, it can ruin the dynamic of your parenting team.

An article titled, “Parenting a United Approach” gave me the idea for this post. It talked about a lot of the concepts I did, and made me think about the teamwork dynamic that is desperately needed in a good parenting relationship.

Parenting Tip: Keeping Your Kids Busy This Month

As Christmas approaches the weather gets colder and the days get shorter. That means your kids will be inside a lot more, and with extra excitement as well due to the holiday season. Certainly it is a wonderful thing to see your kids excited for Advent and Christmas, but parents have a lot of things to accomplish around this time of year. Having your kids inside with tons of stored up energy is not totally ideal. Keeping your kids busy with small activities might be the best way to ensure that you still have some time alone to accomplish what you need to.

A recent post on The Mommy Mess talked about 25 Christmas Activities for Kids. A lot of these activities would be great solutions for your children’s excitement this month.

Parenting Tip: Growing as a Parent is Important Too

As your children grow you need to be able to grow with them as a parent. Children go through stages that are a part of growing up, and these different stages mean that different parenting approaches should be used. You cannot treat a 12 year old like a 4 year old, and you cannot treat a 4 year old like a 12 year old. Sometimes it can be easy to forget this as a parent because in your eyes they will always be your baby. Growing and learning to use more mature parenting approaches as your child ages is a crucial parenting skill.

Catholic Mom recently posted about “Self Limiting Beliefs”. This post talks about your child’s “inner and outer game”, which refers to things such as their response to structure or discipline. It also refers to things such as their own self-perception and self-esteem. These are important things to consider when deciding how to handle tough situations as your child becomes more of a young adult.

Parenting Tip: How to Communicate Clearly and Effectively with Teens

As a parent, communication with your child is key. It starts early on in life when they first begin to speak and grows into a relationship as they mature. Many parents find difficulties communicating with their children when they reach the teen years. Kids start to want more independence and parents may not approve of their choices or actions.

The Informed Parent recently posted about “Effective Communication with Your Teen”. In their post they outline ways for parents with teens to communicate better. It can be really difficult to communicate with your teen without it turning into a controversial argument. These tips may be able to help you out a lot.

How do you communicate with your teen? What is your technique to diffuse a controversial situation when it arises?