Parenting Tip: Adjust Your Parenting Approach For Each Child

Parents have to formulate some sort of expectations when they are raising a child. The must grow as parents, as their child becomes older. What they thought were realistic expectations a year ago might have drastically changed today. It is critical to know your child and understand them as a person. This will help you to have a more balanced relationship with them. In my opinion, the worst thing a parent can do is to apply all the same expectations and rules to all of their children.

I read a post titled, “The Parenting Chronicles: The House Rules”, and it talks about adjusting your rules for each child. While some would argue being consistent with all of your children is fair, the author of this post tends to disagree. I completely see where the author Brenda is coming from with her thoughts. I suggest you check them out.

Siblings Should Be Close Friends

There is nothing cooler than seeing your children get along when you are a parent. Every parent dreams of raising their children to all be best friends. It makes growing up easier when they are all close. They look out for each other, teach each other things, and play games with each other. As they grow older maybe they will do even more things together like make a band or room together at college. MaryAnne at Mama Smiles recently posted about Siblings Helping Siblings.

The post includes a wonderful picture of MaryAnne’s six year old helping her four month old read a book. This is a perfect example of how raising your children to be friends makes growing up easier. The six year old is occupied by reading and feels important because of her reading skills, and the six month old is thrilled to be held and read to. That is some really awesome parenting on display!

Sibling Rivalry: Is It a Damaging Experience for Your Children?

I grew up with two siblings and we were always very close. We never really had an issue getting along, and did almost everything together. We have all remained close and are best friends to this day. I would say that we had a healthy sibling rivalry where we pushed each other be the best version of ourselves that we could. However we never competed against each other with hopes of embarrassing or obliterating the others. It was always a healthy and fun competition, whether it was in sports, school, or whatever else.

It recently occurred to me that some people don’t have as healthy a relationship as I do with my siblings. Some people feel quite negatively about their siblings for that matter, and are not even remotely friends with them. I wondered what their sibling rivalries were like growing up, and realized their rivalries were probably the exact opposite of what mine were like. They wanted to out-do their siblings because they didn’t like them, not because it was a healthy competition amongst friends.

My attention was drawn to sibling rivalries through a post I read called “Is Sibling Rivalry Damaging to Your Kids’ Health?” My opinion of the question asked by this post is that there isn’t a black and white answer. There are certainly some sibling rivalries like my own that ended up being a positive experience, but there are also sibling rivalries that are really negative. I think that the relationship a person has with their siblings is what makes the rivalry a positive or a negative thing. So I don’t think that sibling rivalries are damaging to a child’s health in all cases.