Youth Sports: Teaching Your Kids to Have a Positive Attitude

Youth sports are a great opportunity for your child to grow as an individual, while also learning lessons and making friends. As a parent, you hope that your child will be successful in youth sports. This isn’t always the case though, and this is part the lessons they will learn being an athlete. Keeping a positive attitude even when things don’t go your way in key, and parents should help to remind their children of this when they struggle. You need to encourage your child to keep trying, and also make clear to them that having a negative attitude will only make things worse.

I read a post on JBM Thinks today that asked an important sports parent question. Do you cheer when your child comes in last place? The post was about a young boy with autism who came in last place at a school race recently. Everybody cheered the loudest for him and he had an awesome time. I felt this story was inspiring and it also coincided with what I talked about above. Having a positive attitude is so key in sports and many other things in life. This is a lesson you should be instilling into your children; and don’t forget to cheer them on regardless of what place they come in!

Youth Sports: Don’t Be the Crazy Parent Who Embarrasses Their Family

If you have a child who participates in youth sports you can probably relate to this post. I feel like when I was a kid playing sports we never had the psychotic parent. Sure there may have been a few instances where a nut job ruined everybody else’s good time, but overall it seemed like a fun experience. More and more often today you see these enraged parents yelling at referees, coaches, or their own kid. It really is just sad to see a teenage, volunteer referee getting screamed at by a full grown adult. I don’t know what has caused this change, but it really needs to stop. These “adults” are embarrassing themselves and their families. They might be doing it because they care very much about their child and their success, but everything in life has boundaries. That type of behavior is definitely crossing the line, and borders on being highly inappropriate in a setting that should be family friendly.

A recent post at JBM Thinks talked about how youth sports have become more violent recently. The post talks about on field issues and also issues in the stands.

Have you come across a parent who harasses coaches, players, or referees? How did you handle the situation?

Youth Sports: How to Handle Your Child Sitting the Bench Too Much

One of the worst parts of youth sports is when your child has to sit the bench. Every child will spend a little bit of time on the bench here or there, but I am talking about when your child is a bench warmer. Game in and game out they spend 85% of their time on the bench, and don’t really get a fair shot to be a contributor on the field. This can be upsetting for your child, aggravating to you as a parent, and makes for a negative experience with youth sports.

In a recent post on JBM thinks titled, “When Your Child Sits the Bench in Youth Sports”, the author Janis talks about how to handle situations like this. She gives you ways to try and turn this negative experience into a positive one.

One thing I believe parents should keep in mind is that if you are frustrated by your child’s lack of playing time, think about how they feel. This is their problem so make sure to sympathize with them and help them in any way possible.

How have you handled your child spending too much time on the bench in youth sports?

Youth Sports and Conflict: Too Many Commitments Can Cause Issues

Signing your kids up for sports is a tremendous way to let them have fun, meet new friends, develop skills socially and athletically, and learn life lessons. Sports have become an integral part of today’s society and that is a great thing. A child’s sport career may start as a fun thing that they do because you signed them up, however it can grow into a life long love they will always be a part of. On the flip side, your kid may grow up and realize whatever sport they’re playing just isn’t for them. This is fine because getting your kids involved with sports is mostly about them trying something new and taking away something from the experience.

As your children grow older they might become more seriously involved with sports. This could mean playing on more than one team per sport or even playing two different sports at the same time. This is really a good problem to have, and I don’t think you should ever discourage your child from participating in sports. Sometimes having too many commitments can lead to conflicts with game and practice times though.

A recent post on JBM Thinks titled, “What Should Your Athlete Do When His Youth Sports Teams Conflict”, talks about this sort of situation and how to handle it. I think you should let you child decide what is most important to him or her, and move forward from there. Let it be their decision, but help them if they need guidance and ask for it.

Has your child ever had a sport team conflict? How did your family handle the situation?