I read something from a post ” titled TANTRUMS: Grace and Validation for Parents” today that I want to share with you:
If things aren’t going well or we’ve made mistakes – it’s not the current situation or the mistakes that make us rotten parents. No, being a rotten parent comes from the refusal to pause, reflect and make changes when our kids aren’t turning out how we thought they might, or when we’re having constant meltdowns and not trying different approaches. It’s the NOT TRYING TO MAKE THINGS BETTER that makes some parenting rotten. I think this, anyway.
A lot of parents deal with feelings of guilt on a daily basis. We often go hard on ourselves for each wrong decision, action, or judgment we make during our daily interactions with our children. What makes a good parent though? While there is nothing we can do to rid ourselves of these feelings of guilt, we should at least keep in mind that the little trips we commit in parenthood do not make us awful, rotten parents. We are imperfect–we have always been and will always be.
So long as you are learning and becoming better from all the mistakes we have committed, you are just as good as all the A-list parents in the world! So what makes a good parent? The effort, the perseverance, and (of course) the love.