Archives for March 2013

What To Do When Your Child Gets Bad Grades In School

This morning I stumbled into this interesting post titled, “In the Words of a Non-Parent.” What made it interesting is that it was a parenting advice from someone who has never been a parent. Oddly enough, I found the ideas in the post quite sensible and helpful. One of the key points I took away from the post was how parents should react and deal with our children when they come home with bad grades.

In a few years time, my eldest son will be going into grade school, so this subject is quite significant to me. I am praying that my children will do great when they get to formal schooling, and while I trust that they will I want to be prepared for the worst (just like any parent I suppose). I want to know what I should when I see my child struggling and getting bad grades in school. Most parents punish their children whenever they see a bad mark, but I do not want to do that. I just don’t think that would help.

Have you ever dealt with a child who received bad grades school? What did you do to help him/her do better? Please share your thoughts with me.

Parents Can Never Be Really Sure

I read a post entitled The Great Hidden Cross of Motherhood; and it reminded me of how unsure parents can be in raising their kids–how unsure I can be in raising my own children. I mean, I am certain we all feel that we are good parents, but don’t we all sometimes feel like we’re not doing the best job with our kids?

Some days, I find myself questioning my parenting styles and principles–whether they are really the best way for my children. I second-guess myself, question the efforts I make on behalf of my children, and wonder if there are things I should be doing more, or better. I am well-aware that the desire to give nothing less than the best to my children drives me to scrutinize and doubt myself. While I struggled with these feelings of inadequacy for sometime, I realized that it is just impossible do everything that I know is “best.”

As there is no step-by-step manual for parenting, I don’t think I can ever be sure of my parenting. But I won’t let these little doubts ruin the joy that is parenting.

Are You A Hyper-Competitive Parent?

We are all proud of our children. It is normal for parents to see our children as the best in the world, in the same way that kids think that their parents are the best moms and dads out there. There are some of parents who go beyond the modest feeling of basic parental pride and think that no other child can be better (in any situation) than their own. You know those kind of parents who constantly push their children to do better than everyone else and then brag about the latter’s accomplishments.

I read a post this morning about Parenting Comptetion and it reminded me of how ugly it is to see a hyper-competitive parent in action.

All parents want nothing but the best for our children. We want them to become the best individuals they can be, that is why we try to guide, empower, and motivate them to make the most out of their gifts and talents. However, a lot of us lose sight of these sincere goals along the way and become obsessed with the euphoric feeling we get when our children achieve something. Suddenly, nothing else matters to us but winning or being the best. We forget about the importance of enjoyment, interaction, and many other important values.

Try to examine yourself today. Are you pushing your children to do certain things to make them feel better about themselves or to make you feel better about yourself? If your answer is the second of those two, you might be a hyper-competitive parent, but don’t worry! None of us is without flaw!

Celebrating Palm Sunday The Right Way

How did you guys celebrate Palm Sunday?

The majority of Catholics observe and celebrate Palm Sunday, but not a lot of us actually know what the day is really for. Most of us just go to Mass, receive and take the blessed palms home, and hang them around the house. Although these are parts of the celebration of Palm Sunday, there are more important things that need to be done during this blessed day.

Aside from taking part in the ceremonies and festivities of this day and getting , we must also spend time reflecting on the final week of Jesus’ life. Palm Sunday should not only be a day for enjoyment; instead, it should be a time for us to prepare our hearts for the Holy Week; a time to internalize and appreciate the unfathomable love of God for all of us.

If you want to know how the Pope celebrated his Palm Sunday, you can do so here: “Jesus Christ and The Meaning of Palm Sunday.”

Washing The Feet of Others Displays Humility

Over the past few days, I have been seeing a lot of photographs of Pope Francis washing and kissing the feet of other people–from sick children to single mothers. A post at the NC Register entitled, “Unclean” featuring one of these photos especially caught my attention. It did not only laud the Pope’s humility but looked deeper into the meaning of his actions.

The washing of others’ feet is not a very common practice among Christians nowadays, but it is actually one of Jesus’ commandments. In John 13: 14-16, He said, “Now that I, your Lord and Teacher, have washed your feet, you also should wash one another’s feet. I have set you an example that you should do as I have done for you. I tell you the truth, no servant is greater than his master, nor is a messenger greater than the one who sent him.”

When Jesus washed the feet of his disciples, he exemplified humility and servitude; but more importantly, he showed them how much he loved and accepted all of them despite of all of their faults. I believe our beloved Pope wants to send out this very same message. What do you think?

Parenting Tip: Winning the Heart of Your Child

I have always known what I wanted to be as a parent. I want to be my children’s best friend, like many other parents also strive for. So reading this wonderful post from the Laundry Moms entitled “The Parenting Secret” really struck a chord in me. We have a lot of responsibilities to fulfill as parents–we need to provide for them, discipline them, support their endeavors and many others. And while these are all important parenting duties, I could not help with agree with the writer of the article above that one of the most important task we need to do as parents is to make sure that we have won the hearts of our children.

And what does “winning your children’s heart means? Well, for me, I would say that this means having children who genuinely feel that we (their parents) are the best person they can share their thoughts, ideas, and dreams with. Certainly the actions and attitudes necessary to win a child’s heart will differ from one child to another, but I believe that what lies at its very foundation is the parents’ decision to invest whatever is necessary to build this close, God-honoring relationship with the child.

So tell me, what parenting methods do you use to win the hearts of your children? Let me know in the comments!

My Love For Christ, Is It Enough?

If someone asks if we love God, most of us would likely answer with a big “YES.” Have you ever come to ask yourself if your love for God is enough? Have you ever measured your love for God against his love for you? A post I read this morning entitled, “Passionate for my REDEEMER!” lead me to ask myself these questions.

When I recall God’s acts of love for me, I can’t help but feel ashamed of how little I can offer to reciprocate it. I mean, no matter how much I try I will never be able to love God as much as he does me. There is certainly no way I can equal the intensity and the depth of God’s caring for me. The good thing is God does not need us to do that. All God wants is that we love him with everything that we are. As is said in Luke 10:27, “Love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, all your strength, and all your mind.”

All Christians Are One in Christ

Pope Francis’ speech during his meeting with other world religious leaders yesterday lead me to contemplation. I was especially moved with these words from him, “We feel close to all who, despite being from other traditions and religions, feel the desire to look for truth, beauty and goodness.” It somehow made me realize that despite all the differences we have –Christians of varying denominations–we all are rooted and united in Jesus Christ.

We may differ in some of our practices and beliefs, but we have one model for our faith. We all share one source of salvation, and we are all Christians. Although I do find it necessary to share my views according to my own Catholic faith, I believe that Jesus would not want me to do so in a way that would make others feel insulted or belittled.

As the Apostle Paul counseled, “Be wise in the way you act toward outsiders; make the most of every opportunity. Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” Col. 4:5-6

Be Bold for the Lord

A post I read this morning titled, “Are YOU Ashamed?!” reminded me why I do what I do–why I take the time and make the effort to share my faith. In the post, the writer shared an experience where she was bold and asked a random person if she could pray for her.

Do you do this? Do you go out there and openly ask people if you can offer them a prayer? Do you go out there and share your faith? Or do you feel ashamed about sharing Jesus? I believe we have plenty of opportunities to evangelize and bless others with our faith, but often a lot of us are unable to do so because of our little fears–fear of rejection, fear of being ridiculed, and fear of being thought of as crazy. We are not bold enough.

In Mark 8:38, Jesus said, “For whoever is ashamed of me and of my words in this adulterous and sinful generation, of him will the Son of Man also be ashamed when He comes in the glory of His Father with the Holy angels.” It is our Christian duty to share the gospel. And there is no need to fear, for our work is not our own but of the Lord.

Making Children Enjoy Chores

Aside from getting some much needed help around the house, giving our kids chores also helps with their personal development. When we let kids do chores, we are instilling in them a sense of responsibility and work ethic. We are also giving them a chance to feel that they are contributing something to the family. The problem is, not all kids are enthusiastic to take part in household chores. So what do you do? One mother shares her thoughts on this matter in this wonderful post, “How To Motivate Children To Clean Their Rooms.”

One personal tip that I can give on how to makes chores feel a little less like, well, less of a chore for your kids is to make sure that you give them the appropriate tasks for their age. Kids will less likely do certain things if they feel overwhelmed by them. There are a lot of guides out there on which chores are perfect for every age group, it is best that you check them out before you start with your plan to involve kids with the chores at home.