Letting Children Face Failures

How do you feel when your child fails at something? How do you feel seeing your child suffer through the pain of a failure and disappointment? It’s painful, right? Your probably even more hurt and heart-broken that your kid. Having read this article titled, “Embracing Failure” earlier today reminded me of why letting children face failures is critical to their development.

Many parents today go to ever-greater lengths to protect their kids from the pain of disappointments, and while often feel the need to shield my kids from the pain of dashed expectations, I feel that it is more important that let them go through failure today and then teach them how to cope when things don’t work out exactly the way they want so that when they grow up they become resilient adults who are able to weather the big storms of life. Letting children face failures is tough to do, but very important.

Experiencing Failure: An Unavoidable Part of Life

It seems as though kids today are growing up with the expectation of always succeeding. This is not a bad attitude to have at all, in fact I think it is a good thing. These kids don’t accept failure, but do it the wrong way. Instead of failing and looking for ways to improve themselves, they look for who to point the finger at. If they didn’t score well on a test, then the test must have been way too difficult.

A post from Kitchen Table Chats with a Catholic Matriarch made me realize this was happening. Her post titled, “The Participation Trophy Generation”, explains this situation quite well. While I found the title to be absolutely genius and really witty, the post also got across the message that I spoke of above. Kids today want the success, but don’t want to work for it. Perhaps they have been given false “success”, like participation trophies, before when they might not have deserved it.

What do think about the “participation trophy generation” concept? Do you agree that children today are too coddled when growing up?