As Our Kids Grow, We Grow Too

“Whether we feel like a traumatised empty-nester or a woman who finally has her life back, our sense of identity shifts: we do not feel like the same person we were a year ago.” I read these words from a blog post titled, “Motherhood: On Growing Up;” and I believe it perfectly sums up what mothers go through as their kids pass from one developmental milestone to another. Don’t you agree? As our kids grow, we grow too. Our role as a parent changes when our children go from high school to college, and college into adulthood.

I have always been a firm believer that the art of great parenting hinges on lifelong learning. As parents, we  should not only watch our kids grow, but we must strive to gracefully grow with them. As our kids go through every stage in life, we must take each stage with them using everything that we have learned and gained from the previous stages–learning new things and stretching our comfort zones just as our kids are. As our kids grow, we grow too because we are parents and that is our job. Being there for our children is the most important thing we can do.

Parenting Tip: Growing as a Parent is Important Too

As your children grow you need to be able to grow with them as a parent. Children go through stages that are a part of growing up, and these different stages mean that different parenting approaches should be used. You cannot treat a 12 year old like a 4 year old, and you cannot treat a 4 year old like a 12 year old. Sometimes it can be easy to forget this as a parent because in your eyes they will always be your baby. Growing and learning to use more mature parenting approaches as your child ages is a crucial parenting skill.

Catholic Mom recently posted about “Self Limiting Beliefs”. This post talks about your child’s “inner and outer game”, which refers to things such as their response to structure or discipline. It also refers to things such as their own self-perception and self-esteem. These are important things to consider when deciding how to handle tough situations as your child becomes more of a young adult.