Parenting Tip: Growing as a Parent is Important Too

As your children grow you need to be able to grow with them as a parent. Children go through stages that are a part of growing up, and these different stages mean that different parenting approaches should be used. You cannot treat a 12 year old like a 4 year old, and you cannot treat a 4 year old like a 12 year old. Sometimes it can be easy to forget this as a parent because in your eyes they will always be your baby. Growing and learning to use more mature parenting approaches as your child ages is a crucial parenting skill.

Catholic Mom recently posted about “Self Limiting Beliefs”. This post talks about your child’s “inner and outer game”, which refers to things such as their response to structure or discipline. It also refers to things such as their own self-perception and self-esteem. These are important things to consider when deciding how to handle tough situations as your child becomes more of a young adult.

Parenting Tip: How to Communicate Clearly and Effectively with Teens

As a parent, communication with your child is key. It starts early on in life when they first begin to speak and grows into a relationship as they mature. Many parents find difficulties communicating with their children when they reach the teen years. Kids start to want more independence and parents may not approve of their choices or actions.

The Informed Parent recently posted about “Effective Communication with Your Teen”. In their post they outline ways for parents with teens to communicate better. It can be really difficult to communicate with your teen without it turning into a controversial argument. These tips may be able to help you out a lot.

How do you communicate with your teen? What is your technique to diffuse a controversial situation when it arises?

Youth Sports: How to Handle Your Child Sitting the Bench Too Much

One of the worst parts of youth sports is when your child has to sit the bench. Every child will spend a little bit of time on the bench here or there, but I am talking about when your child is a bench warmer. Game in and game out they spend 85% of their time on the bench, and don’t really get a fair shot to be a contributor on the field. This can be upsetting for your child, aggravating to you as a parent, and makes for a negative experience with youth sports.

In a recent post on JBM thinks titled, “When Your Child Sits the Bench in Youth Sports”, the author Janis talks about how to handle situations like this. She gives you ways to try and turn this negative experience into a positive one.

One thing I believe parents should keep in mind is that if you are frustrated by your child’s lack of playing time, think about how they feel. This is their problem so make sure to sympathize with them and help them in any way possible.

How have you handled your child spending too much time on the bench in youth sports?

Parenting Tip: Have an Older Mentor to Reassure You Along the Way

Parenting is one of the frustrating things that a person will do in their life. The job of being a parent entails a lot of hard work and effort and sometimes minimal results. There will be many days along the way where you think to yourself, “I think I’d better just give up”. Obviously this isn’t an option as a parent, but it doesn’t stop us from feeling that way sometimes.

In a recent post on Mom Life Today titled, “Help! I Feel Like I’m Ruining My Kids!” the author Susan talks about the frustrations of parenting. Susan also suggests having an older mentor that can reassure you when you are having doubts. This can be a friend, neighbor, or maybe your mother or father. Everybody likes to be reassured from time to time and that does not exclude parents.

Parental Leave: More Dad’s are Taking Time Off When Kids are Born

We are used to living in a world where a woman has a child and she goes on maternity leave. The world has been slowly changing its ways though and parental leave has become more common. Parental leave can be taken by a mother or father. The number of fathers going on parental leave is growing and I think this is tremendous. This is a societal norm that is slowly changing, and I think it is for the better.

Learn more about parental leave here: Dad’s Parental Leave

Helping Your Child to Stop the Negative Habit of Worrying Too Much

Worrying is something all parents do a lot of whether they want to or not. It can be worrying about their children, job, or anything really and worrying is a negative activity. While everybody does worry from time to time, it is best to try and minimize this activity. While parents are concerned enough with their own worrying, it should be kept in mind that kids worry too. It can be over their grades, sports, or a relationship. If your child seems detached or sad for a long period of time they might just have a lot on their plate at the time. It can be really helpful if a parent tries to talk to their child when it seems like they are worrying too much.

Dad Blunders recently blogged about his son who is still very young and his worrying habits. The post is titled, “How to Help a Child Cope with Worry”, and it has some good tips about how to help your child out if they are worrying too much. One thing that was pointed out in the article was how much a child can rely on routine. This is especially true with younger children, but true for young adults as well.

Getting Your Child to Sleep at Night: Tips and Advice To Help You

Trying to get your young child to fall asleep is a difficulty that parents all have to deal with. It is hard enough to get your own body to be tired at the right time of day, let alone your child’s. There is no way to make them fall asleep, but you can stress behaviors that will help. Cutting out things such as late night snacks, loud noises in the house, and other distractions can be helpful in creating a good sleep environment for your child. You should set a bedtime and stick to it every night. Having a definite routine will make some sense of normalcy for your child, and in time it will help their body to feel tired at the right time.

A recent post on Dad’s Round Table titled, “Tips to Help Your Child Fall Asleep and Stay Asleep” had some really interesting pointers to give on this topic. They discuss topics such as paint color in your child’s room and also instilling a dimming light into their room as well. The light being dimmed can trigger their biological clock to make them feel tired.

How do you get your child to fall asleep at night? We would love to hear different techniques parents are using!

Reading to Your Child From Miles Away: Be There Bedtime Stories

We recently posted about teaching your child to read here on My Catholic Blog and this post is also related to that topic. Teaching your child to read is truly important to their growth as a person. If you are a parent, grandparent, brother, or sister reading with a younger member of your family is not only a good chance for them to learn, but also a great opportunity to bond and spend time together. Cherish the time that you get to spend together and never turn down a request from a young child to be read a story.

Catholic Mom featured a post written by Jennifer Gladen recently about Be There Bedtime Stories. These books let you record yourself reading a story so that you can send it to a loved one. This is a great idea for parents who travel a lot, or grandparents who do not live close to their grandchildren. There is something special about hearing somebody’s voice that makes me feel like Be There Bedtime Stories would be a big hit with kids.

What do you think about Be There Bedtime Stories? Would you ever send one to a son, daughter, or grandchild?

Comparing Your Family to Others: Something You Should Never Do

“Instead of comparing our lot with that of those who are more fortunate than we are, we should compare it with the lot of the great majority of our fellow men. It then appears that we are among the privileged”. This quote from Helen Keller is a beautiful thought to consider. Why must people constantly compare themselves to others who they deem have it “better than them”? Parents are often amongst the people that do this the most. They look at the family down the street and wonder why their own kids can’t behave as well as their children do? The main issue with this is that all families have their own internal problems, and whether or not that family is openly revealing that is irrelevant. Parenting is not something that you should be comparative about because no two children are exactly the same. Even children in the same family can be very different individuals.

A recent post on Empowering Parents titled, “The Myth of the ‘Lucky’ Parent: Do You Compare Your Family to Others?” echoes this sentiment. The article talks about parenting and how often parents will be quick to judge other families and compare their own to them. This is truly an unrealistic action to perform that will not bring you happiness.

Do have a problem with comparing your family with others? How does it make you feel?

Teaching Children to Read: Different Methods to Try

Teaching a child to read is not something that comes naturally to all parents. It takes a lot of hard work and patience to succeed in teaching a young child to read anything. Many parents use methods such as flashcards with letter or sounds on them to get started.

A post on Playground Dad by Ellie Perico gave some insightful tips on how to get your child reading. The post titled, “Teach Your Toddler to Read” is full of information about the best ways to get your toddler reading.

How have you succeeded in getting your children to read? What was your most successful method?